Ever thought why you never were the part of crowd? Ever thought why you never laughed like hyena on every joke which you didn’t find amusing ? Ever thought why you were never able to gel in while others having a good time?
I, often, asked myself these questions, why oh why, why can’t just be like them or one of them? I tried pleasing people with a thought, maybe just maybe, they may like me, I may become part of their circle, maybe somewhere I relate to them… Trust me, these things never work, self loathing leads you nowhere. Accept the fact you were not born to fit in, you were born to stand out and shine brighter than others. I, often, quelled my inner thoughts, my resistance, so that I may not end up offending someone. This world doesn’t work like this, be a boss, don’t question yourself if you are not wrong, don’t blame yourself for others behavior. Speak your mind, raise your voice when you think you are treated wrongly, when you see wrong. Don’t keep quite and wallow inside. There is nothing wrong in making yourself happy until unless you harm someone. When you are not comfortable convey it, tell it loud and clear. Live your life on your terms, lead the way.You don’t have to follow the beaten path when you know you can make your own way. There are examples in galore, where people have broken the normal norms, done exactly opposite what were expected from them,set new standards and milestones, raised the bar. Yes! that is your cult, recognize it.
Sushmita Sen is one such name, rose to fame in 1994 when she became Miss Universe, first Indian woman to have won this title. I admire that lady so much, she is a big source of inspiration for everyone. She lives her life the way she wants, she is a right balance of independent successful working woman and a mother. She adopted two girls and that’s her family. She dismissed the society’s rules that a woman can have good life only when supported by men.Today she is standing tall with grace and humility because she took right decision in her life depending upon what she wanted not what was expected from her.
We get one life to live. So make it worth remembering.Leave a legacy behind, of your virtue, your standards, your tenacity.Let people know they can’t take you for granted and walk all over you. They should rather know not to mess with you. Don’t just survive, live, live your life to the fullest. Do what makes you happy, makes you feel contented. Go out pursue your madness, your dreams. Don’t care what others would say. people who,often, remind you of guidelines are the ones who inwardly wanted to do the same but didn’t have guts to do it. Don’t listen to them rather ask them, what would have they done given a chance? put this question mark on them and see them falter. This is how it works. Learn to say no. Your inner peace is of paramount importance, don’t let anyone disturb it.
In the end , i just want to say that, when you realize your real strength then no one can take advantage of your weakness. BE STRONG, BE YOU AND DON’T AFRAID TO STAND OUT!
More power to you
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